Using the hakomi method in individual therapy

Sometimes the work needs to go deeper than traditional Enneagram coaching.

When past trauma, depression, or anxiety arise, therapy can be a powerful path to healing and growth.

For individuals in Washington State, I offer Individual Therapy both in-person and online. If you are located outside of Washington, I recommend seeking a referral to a licensed mental health professional in your state for appropriate care.

My Approach

I am trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and the Hakomi Method, which blend mindfulness and somatic awareness to support deep healing. Additionally, I integrate the Enneagram into my work, recognizing that personality plays a significant role in mental health and personal growth.

For more information or to schedule a therapy session, please visit my Psychology Today profile.

The Hakomi Method is a gentle yet powerful approach to healing trauma, blending somatic therapy with mindfulness. This method helps uncover unresolved experiences from the past by tuning into the body’s responses and innate wisdom.

Together, the therapist and client explore these past memories to uncover the missing nourishment or support needed for resolution and healing. Rooted in compassion and guided by the client’s pace, Hakomi creates a deeply transformative space for growth and wholeness.

What is the Hakomi method?

Frequently asked questions

  • The name Hakomi originated from a dream that Ron Kurtz, the founder of the Hakomi Method, had during the method’s early development. Inspired by this dream, Ron discovered that Hakomi is a Hopi word that loosely translates to “Who are you?” or “Who are you in relation to these many realms?” This profound question perfectly reflected the essence of the method—a deep exploration of self and relationships.


    Ron Kurtz took great care to approach the use of the name Hakomi with respect and integrity. He reached out to members of the Hopi community to discuss his intention in using the word Hakomi for this therapeutic method. With their permission and understanding, Ron embraced the name as a way to honor the wisdom embedded in Indigenous cultures. As such, practitioners of the Hakomi Method are tasked with acknowledging and honoring the cultural and spiritual foundations of the word Hakomi and its connection to the Hopi people.

  • While Hakomi is highly effective for healing trauma, it is not limited to trauma work. It can also be used for personal growth, resolving emotional challenges, addressing patterns that no longer serve, and fostering a deeper connection to oneself. Hakomi’s principles make it versatile for a wide range of therapeutic and healing needs.

  • Physical touch can be used in Hakomi but only with the client’s explicit consent and in ways that feel safe and supportive. For example, touch might be used to help a client connect with a specific sensation, to provide physical or emotional support, or to provide a sense of grounding. However, touch is not a required element of Hakomi, and many sessions do not involve touch at all.

  • Yes, Hakomi can be highly effective in online sessions. The method’s emphasis on mindfulness, somatic awareness, and client-led exploration translates well to a virtual setting. Hakomi therapists are trained to adapt techniques to support the client’s experience, ensuring that online sessions remain safe, meaningful, and transformative.

    However, for those who live locally, I recommend attending sessions in-person when possible to get the greatest benefit from a Hakomi session.

  • In a Hakomi session, you can expect a calm, supportive, and non-judgmental space where mindfulness is used to explore your inner experiences. The therapist may guide you to notice sensations, emotions, or thoughts that arise in response to specific situations or questions. These experiences often lead to uncovering core beliefs or unresolved experiences that shape how you relate to yourself and others. The process is client-led, meaning your pace and readiness determine the depth of exploration.

    When integrating the Enneagram, your unique personality type becomes an additional lens to understand patterns, strengths, and challenges in your life. The therapist uses their knowledge of the Enneagram to guide inquiries and reflections that align with your specific type, deepening the exploration of core beliefs and emotional responses. For example, if your type tends to suppress certain emotions or needs, Hakomi techniques might gently bring awareness to those areas, allowing for healing and growth.

  • The Enneagram offers profound insights into personality patterns, while Hakomi brings somatic awareness and mindfulness into the process, grounding these insights in the wisdom of the body. This integration allows you to move beyond intellectual or emotional understanding of your type and access the body’s intelligence to deepen your self-awareness and healing. By noticing and working with physical sensations, emotions, and schema, you can uncover and transform limiting patterns at a somatic level, fostering a more embodied connection to yourself. This process not only enhances your personal Enneagram work but also helps you cultivate compassion, groundedness, and authentic connection in all areas of life.

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